Remembering
Come spend 6 weeks discovering (and sharing) how the person you love continues to live within you.
Limited to 8 women for real intimacy & sharing.
Thursdays, 6 -7:45PM EST, September 3rd to October 8th
$ 650 USD
Most grief groups give you a space to talk about grief. There are too few spaces that give you space to talk about love.
Over the past six years of sitting with widows, I’ve noticed that almost every woman eventually asks the same question:
Who am I without the person I was building my life with?
When the person who dies is the one person who knew us most deeply, with whom we felt safest and most ourselves with…. the grief can feel profoundly disorienting, as though we’ve lost our anchor.
But have you ever stopped to wonder just how much of who you are today exists because of your person?
The way you love. The courage you’ve found. The values you hold and live by. The way you are moved by beauty. The way you care for others. The dreams you still carry for yourself. The way you take care of yourself in grief. How much of that exists because of them?
Too many people and spaces in grief will attempt to push you towards letting go.
They’ll tell you that you need to move forward, to try new things, build new relationships and find a renewed sense of purpose after your loss.
But for those of us who lost someone who made us more of who we are… who saw us fully and loved us in ways that healed something deep within us, I think that the way forward is to bring our person along.
To notice the ways they’ve become a part of you.
To internalize them and begin to notice just how much they have shape how you think, what you hold dear, the way you navigate the world and the way you relate to yourself.
Through my own personal experience with this loss and the work I’ve done with so many mourners, I believe that love can continue to deepen, even in absence. I believe that we can feel deeply connected to our person in ways that aren’t dependent on signs, dreams or any other spiritual set of beliefs. When we are given the time and space to reflect deeply on our person’s life, on their love and on the ways they have altered the very fabric of our being, we can carry them with us in ways that inspire us and gently shape our lives in meaningful ways, now and always.
What a gift it is to discover the ways we continue to be part of one another in ways even death can not touch.
Let’s do that together.
For six weeks, we’ll gather in a small circle of widows to remember the ones we love by telling their stories and by exploring the imprint they’ve left behind on our lives and our very being.
Together, we will remember and share who they are (you’ll get to introduce them to new people!). Who we are because of them. And we’ll begin to notice something many of us feel but rarely have the words for, that the people we love don’t just leave us with memories, they leave us changed. They become a part of us. The way we see the world, the way we love and live and the inspiration that carries us forward in life post loss… our lives stay intertwined with theirs in ways even death can not touch.
Most grief groups focus on what’s been lost.
And we need those spaces.
But this is a different type of room.
A room where you tell us about them.
About the life they lived.
About who you became inside their love.
About the ways you are forever changed by having known them.
Have a look inside
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Week 1
Introduce us to your person
What do you want us to know about your late partner? What makes them uniquely them?
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Week 2
The relationship that shaped you
Exploring who you became inside their love
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Week 3
The imprint
The parts of you that can only exist because they lived, you loved one another and because they’ve died.
Have a look inside
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Week 4
Your favourite stories
Take part in a memory circle that brings together the themes we’ve explored.
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Week 5
Their legacy
Take part in creating a legacy map reflecting on all the ways your person light and spirit is still impacting you and the world.
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Week 6
A letter from them
You’re invited to write and share a letter written “from” your person’s perspective. See yourself through their eyes. Imagine the worlds they’d want you to hear.
Love is transformative.
And if that love transformed us while they were alive, why can’t it continue transforming us now?
Time & Place: Join us Thursday evening, 6 to 7:45 PM EST over zoom
Duration: Our time together begins September 3rd and ends October 8th
